Controlling Emotions — Continued

Well this is a continuation from my previous post “ControllingEmotions”. Reason for continuation is to try and express why it is hard for individuals like myself to express or say things such as sorry and also to display that we do express positive feelings. A comment was made on my previous post, “But its also very important to make the balancer feel how important she/he is in your life and appreciate and express your love and affection and even apolgize”, which made me ask myself a few questions. Yes it is important to express love and affection but one shouldn’t take this in the Western form or context. In the West, people say “Sorry”, or “I Love you” to express their apologies or love. In the East and definetly in countries like Sri Lanka or India, culturally things do not work this way. If I were to walk upto my mother today and say “Amma I love you”, either she will give me a weird look or ask “Have you had lunch?”. I hope you understand what i am trying to express here. Things do not work in these countries in the “Sleepless in Seattle” Western movie kinda way, where the son apologizes to the dad and they both hug, kiss and live happily ever after with their new found mom. Apologizing in these countries is talking about cricket to your dad once again or talking to your mother about the new girl who moved in next door and in my mother’s context - just plain gossip LOL.

Yes, so i do understand that one should filter out positive feelings as well as the negative ones especially towards the one who you get annoyed with on a regular basis. I try to show positive feelings towards my mother everyday and somedays I fail. But i do definetly try, just dont do it in the “Western” way but in my own way so that my mother understands that i still care about her and she cares about me

Cheers.