Desirability

Levels of desirability can be monitored and quantified on different aspects of life varying from your social ambitions to personal milestones with your partner. Some desirables come pretty easy, like what you want to have for lunch today or a movie you want to watch but there are certain other things in life that are pretty hard to desire. Dreaming on the other hand is easy – everyone dreams to do certain things in life but personally i feel desirability along with self motivation and luck take you along way. For example I have a dream of doing my MBA but recently i have noticed fluctuations in my desirability. I think motivation is not a factor here because it can be instantaneously engineered with an individual like myself but desirability is the key. I have noticed this sudden behavior with some other things in life as well, i.e. reading books, working out, buying a new car – all of which is telling me that I am not doing something right. Suddenly i realized that my desirability and motivation level hit a small high in the past few days and I think I know the reason why.

I feel that desirability in these aspects that I have noticed where fluctuation occurs and most of the time it seems to be hitting a pretty low mark is because of my social environment. Whenever I am around individuals whose intellectual capabilities are much stronger than mine or their energy to believe and desire certain things are high – it creates a resonance of sorts. The frequency that they think and believe and so highly hold their values and ambitions vibrates into the individuals around them. I have noticed this with only certain individuals and I guess we need to identify this among ourselves when we meet and socialize with individuals whether we can be on a “desirable energetic” frequency with them. From the beginning of my career I guess I can count with one hand the individuals whom I think if around me all the time during work, could easily push me to levels of excellence. I guess sometimes this has to do with impressing the folks, just like what you would do in school – trying to impress the professor but most of the time it is because of the high standards that they set for themselves, the way they interact, their communication skills and the way they carry themselves in their life. This is not to say that I lack motivation and I believe most of the time I am pushing myself, but after having watched the movie “Idiocracy” – I believe that you will only reach a certain level in any aspect of life depending on your social environment and the desirability that surrounds you. i.e. – I want to buy a BMW car but everyone around me has a nice 1997-2000 Toyota/Honda model – my desirability is low but when my VP comes from Austin in his cool Volvo convertible – it hits a high and I want my BMW. Another example, I want to set high standards and think about implementation scenarios, strategies for future projects but everyone around me is keen on just getting the work done but I am sure if my ex PMs {there is more than one but i believe only 2 have my highest respect} was here I would be thinking differently.

Anyways, I hope I did not get off topic there for a while. The point is make sure you surround yourself with people who have the next level of thinking, motivation, intellectuality and most of all the desire to succeed in everything they do. It takes you to that next level of your game. This can be with a mate you hit the bars to meet a few nice ladies{i am sure you do not want to go with a guy who is keen on just getting plain drunk and standing alone talking to himself} or playing a sport – or just thinking.

Cheers,